(Note: This post was written in July, before coming to Wales.)
The knowledge of my limitations has been growing especially this past month. With all the driving and sleeping--things necessary for the successful and healthy/happy functioning of myself and my children for the other parts of the day--I have less time than ever. Therefore, I have had to become extremely intentional with how I spend that time.
The knowledge of my limitations has been growing especially this past month. With all the driving and sleeping--things necessary for the successful and healthy/happy functioning of myself and my children for the other parts of the day--I have less time than ever. Therefore, I have had to become extremely intentional with how I spend that time.
Aside from sleeping, eating, bathing, driving, the chores of laundry, cooking, and dishes I try to tackle as they come; but they can be put off for a while. This is carefully considered taking into account whether or not I have enough clothing, food, and clean cutlery to function for the rest of the day, and whether or not I will have enough of a time slot to accomplish them in the foreseeable future, before I do run out of them.
I'm doubling the use of my time by listening to audio books during the long drives. And even during short ones. I take naps whenever I can get them, drink a lot of Starbucks Refreshers, and run errands as they come up--like going to the bank or the grocery store. Maybe a brief outing or a sweet treat for a feast day.
Skyping with my husband is important but not immediate.
The rest I have had to weigh in order of importance and value. Value being the amount of joy, rest, or spiritual refreshment I get from the task or activity. Because spiritual food is just as important as physical.
Right now, my intentional living must include the following: reading (or audio books), blogging (writing), playing with Roan (this can be in chunks scattered throughout the day), and bed-time routine/reading with Afon. Those are the non-negotiables. If I don't whip up a three-course dinner, answer my friend's email, or do my makeup one day, I'm okay with it. Some things need to make way in order for the things of greater importance to get done.
This translates to the bigger picture, at least during my child-rearing years. I know I won't be able to try, much less excel, at the {all of my interests}. If I had to choose only a handful to focus on for the rest of my life, they would be these:
Writing // via blogging, poetry, journaling, or storytelling. I would drop all other hobbies in order to preserve this first and last love.
Photography // it is important to me to capture the little daily wonders and the to document the blossoming of my children. It is also greatly relaxing for me to sit back and edit/process photographs at the end of the day, or when I need a mental break.
Liturgical living // aside from prayer, Mass attendance, and the other obligations of the practicing Catholic, I strive to be aware of the liturgical calendar and incorporate the rhythms of the Church into daily life.
What about you? Do you struggle to live intentionally? What are your non-negotiable necessities?
Good question. I think I have to look at things in maybe week long chunks because of work and I'm good at putting off things like cleaning if something more important comes up.
ReplyDeleteI need time to relax, just a little time to myself to recharge my introvert batteries. On work days I usually need a bath and a book when my husband gets home. Most other days I need to be creating something - a meal, a knitting project, etc. the need to create is strong in me (ironic for an infertile isn't!). I need to feel unrushed and have down time in our days to just be. Storytime is a big must as well.
"good at putting off things like cleaning if something more important comes up"--love that you just said that, only kindred spirits can get that there are plenty things more important than cleaning (aside from basic hygiene of course)!
DeleteYou are definitely a creator, always making and growing beautiful things. I'm a wannabe, but I usually end up tiring myself out in the planning stages, haha!